14 Feb The Winner Is…
There’s seems to be something about society’s definition of success that fosters arrogance. If someone is the best, then they are the best and no one can deny that. The problem with arrogance, however, is that it breeds contempt and contempt is an attitude that seems to say, “I’m the best and you are nothing.” Obviously, that is a dangerous attitude to adopt.
Most folks don’t like to associate with arrogance. It can foster a feeling of insignificance. But, it doesn’t stop there. Arrogance, many times, makes way for complacency and complacency is that assertion which says, “I’m the best. No one can touch me. Therefore, I will lean back and take it easy.”
Mr. Rabbit & Mr. Tortoise
If I recall my childhood stories correctly, it seems that it was complacency that brought an end to Mr. Rabbit’s reign as the fastest of the animals. You may recall the story of the race between Mr. Tortoise and Mr. Rabbit. Mr. Rabbit was so far ahead that he thought he could take a nap and did. Mr. Tortoise, on the other hand, knew he was not swift, but he kept plodding along at his slow, uninterrupted pace. Eventually, he passed Mr. Rabbit who was catching a few Z’s. At the last moment, Mr. Rabbit awoke, realized what had happened, and cut in his afterburners – all to no avail. Mr. Tortoise won by a hair (excuse the pun).
What’s the point? Many folks (Mr. Rabbits) believe they are so far ahead of society’s ‘independents’ (Mr. Tortoises) that they believe they are successfully moving ahead in their realization of society’s definition of success. Society’s success followers have adopted society’s definition of success – a finish line they may have adopted out of something less than personal commitment.
They believe they can just sit back and be complacent because they believe they’ve arrived.
Fog-filled folks say, “I have subscribed to society’s definition of success that tells me that having the go to my site right amount of money, the can i buy lasix over the counter right job title, driving the website here right car, being seen with the click here to investigate right people, living in the right house, and even drinking the right beverage will make me a success. How can society deny me acceptance into its circle of arrogance?” This seems to be a prevalent question.
When ‘independent’ success (Mr. Tortoise) comes calling, it reaches out to one who has identified their own success in seven areas of their life: Financial, Career, Family, Mental, Social, Physical and Spiritual. It calls to those who have been willing and committed to step aside from society’s self-complacent, assigned definition of success and to those who are willing to declare with confidence, “I am now ‘independent’ of society’s definition of success and have taken the appropriate actions to achieve and live my personalized definition of success.”
Is it conceivable that you inwardly feel regretful about how you may have limited your personal race to this stage in your life? Have you been adapting your daily actions to the expectations of society so that you would be accepted by the “in crowd,” while your mind and daydreams are, in reality, rebels to society’s “in” way of thinking? In other words, is your outward presentation of the real you, and your corresponding achievements, a direct reflection of your inward reality? If not, perhaps you should consider an examination of your commitment toward being honest with yourself.
Who are you really hurting when you do not have respect for, and confidence in, your convictions and the grit to step aside from society’s popularly expected traditions and definition of success – yourself or society?